Somehow, you have a way of addressing people all across the spectrum. You really speak in a way that resonates with those who are going through mental affliction, but you also speak in a way that can be understandable to others who don't always understand it. We need more voices like yours speaking up. Thank you for sharing this. Another great one. I'll be passing along to others
Thank you for this. As someone in recovery from addiction, I know greatly about shame and despair. Lately, however, I’ve been focusing on agency. And the key, I find, is to keep it small for now. Small things, small victories, small steps, but consistently, and daily. I mean, there really isn’t any other option for big at this time. Small is good, but I’ll aim to keep it up.
Amen. Agency is absolutely key to any kind of recovery. Accepting that God has granted you real agency to act in your life and make small movements toward healing. Proud of you.
If one feels shame about not pulling their weight, then it feels easy to conclude that the condition for not feeling shame involves being uncomfortable and feeling stress struggling with things - in other words, it's not ok to feel ok. But of course maybe setting up that paradox is simply a way of creating an unacceptable binary in order to force permissiveness toward not struggling or feeling shame.
I believe there's truth to this, but how do you answer those who receive judgment when they finally have the courage to struggle a bit more publicly? Multiple times.
I have a dear friend who recently expressed concern for all that I share about my struggles. She worried I was throwing pearls before swine. She has been taught not to trust anyone based on how she has been received in her own weakness.
I come across this a lot as I walk with the broken.
I learned a long time ago that I don't want to keep things in the dark. I want to expose my shame to the light...but this doesn't guarantee I will be received well. I don't expose myself assuming I'll be received with grace. Indeed, I have also often been met with judgment. It is crushing...but I prefer not to be consumed. I seek to persist in finding people who will receive me well. But, I do have low days, and I am tempted to hide all over again...
Somehow, you have a way of addressing people all across the spectrum. You really speak in a way that resonates with those who are going through mental affliction, but you also speak in a way that can be understandable to others who don't always understand it. We need more voices like yours speaking up. Thank you for sharing this. Another great one. I'll be passing along to others
Thank you for this. As someone in recovery from addiction, I know greatly about shame and despair. Lately, however, I’ve been focusing on agency. And the key, I find, is to keep it small for now. Small things, small victories, small steps, but consistently, and daily. I mean, there really isn’t any other option for big at this time. Small is good, but I’ll aim to keep it up.
Amen. Agency is absolutely key to any kind of recovery. Accepting that God has granted you real agency to act in your life and make small movements toward healing. Proud of you.
Thank you for this. I really mean it.
If one feels shame about not pulling their weight, then it feels easy to conclude that the condition for not feeling shame involves being uncomfortable and feeling stress struggling with things - in other words, it's not ok to feel ok. But of course maybe setting up that paradox is simply a way of creating an unacceptable binary in order to force permissiveness toward not struggling or feeling shame.
I believe there's truth to this, but how do you answer those who receive judgment when they finally have the courage to struggle a bit more publicly? Multiple times.
I have a dear friend who recently expressed concern for all that I share about my struggles. She worried I was throwing pearls before swine. She has been taught not to trust anyone based on how she has been received in her own weakness.
I come across this a lot as I walk with the broken.
I learned a long time ago that I don't want to keep things in the dark. I want to expose my shame to the light...but this doesn't guarantee I will be received well. I don't expose myself assuming I'll be received with grace. Indeed, I have also often been met with judgment. It is crushing...but I prefer not to be consumed. I seek to persist in finding people who will receive me well. But, I do have low days, and I am tempted to hide all over again...